Card Games, Late Night Laughs, and Figuring it All Out
I was lying in bed the other night and I started cracking myself up in the dark thinking about the card game Old Maid. My sister and I had these oversized cards that were beaten and battered, but none more so than the Old Maid. She was dog-eared and worn through on every corner, so obvious that when either of us would go to pick a card, you could pretty much tell which one was the Old Maid. (My sister eventually got smarter and started dog-earing more cards to level the playing field.) But I hated losing so I would try to find any way to distinguish the Old Maid from the rest. I focused a lot of time and energy on avoiding the Old Maid, rather than looking for perfect pairs. And that, my friends, is common practice.
Coaching is a bit like playing Old Maid. Most people start out describing their Old Maid. They say, "Oh, she's old, wrinkly, boring, stressful. I don't want her." Of course, we can spend time investigating her but we know her, right? She's "old, wrinkly, boring, stressful." So more importantly let's start looking around at your other cards. Oh, Baker Barry? Post-Man Pete? You're looking for more of them? (Those are characters from Old Maid, btw.) First we figure out what exactly it is you're looking for, then we concentrate on finding the matches. How do you identify that you're looking for Post-Man Pete vs. Baker Barry? Where have you seen them around town before? When you meet Mr. Post-Man Pete, how do you know it's really him? Long story short, how can we get you all the perfect pairs?
I'm offering you the time, space, and multiple decks of cards to explore what you need for you to win in life. I'm willing to hold on to the Old Maid for you (I know, coming from me, that's huge) and show you my hand so that we can figure out what works best for you. I'm not here to win. I'm here to help you figure out what winning might mean for you.
So let's play some Old Maid. Let's take a look at what you want to find. Let's try to make some matches, find some pairs. Let's learn what you need, what you want, and how to get it!
As always, sending sunshine and looking forward to speaking!
Henna